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Hypospadias is a condition in
which the urethra (the tube which carries
semen and urine through the centre of the
penis) doesn't develop normally. As a
result, the opening of the penis - which is
the end of the urethra - is located anywhere
between the bottom edge of the glans and the
scrotum.
Another effect of hypospadias
is that the penis may be shorter on the
underside than it is on the top side, which
can cause a bend downwards at the end of the
penis - this is called chordee. Chordee of
the penis is often associated with more
severe forms of hypospadias. In hypospadias
it's also common for the glans to have a
"mushroom" shape, so it looks flattened when
compared to the usual glans shape. There's
sometimes a twist along the length of the
penile shaft. Most boys who have hypospadias
have an incomplete or "hooded" foreskin
which does not go all the way round the
penis. (There are exceptions: sometimes a
complete foreskin surrounds the penis, but
the urethral meatus is rather larger than
normal. This is called the megameatus intact
prepuce.)
The location of the abnormal urethral
opening is used to classify hypospadias. The
location is "anterior", which means on the
glans or just below the coronal ridge, in
50% of cases. It is "middle", which means
somewhere along the penile shaft, in 20%.
And it is "posterior", which means on the
scrotum or perineum, in 30%. The most common
hypospadias is the mild, anterior form. In
my experience of counseling men with genital
problems, the differences between a "normal"
penis and a hypospadic penis may be noticed
only by someone knowledgeable about this.
Experience in this field has shown me, over
and over again, that many men have mild
hypospadias and remain unaware of the fact.
The most common genital anomalies associated
with hypospadias are undescended testes and
inguinal hernias. A review of over 1000
patients with hypospadias found the
incidence of undescended testes and inguinal
hernias at 9% each. As the severity of
hypospadias increased, the incidence of
undescended testes and inguinal hernias was
more than 30% and ore than 20%,
respectively.
Hypospadias occurs in about 1
in 100 live male births, but the incidence
appears to be rising. Many factors have been
blamed for this, including rising levels of
female hormones in the environment (mostly
from hormones from the contraceptive pill,
excreted by women, entering waste disposal
systems), and also from chemicals in the
environment which have similar effects in
the human body to estrogens. However, there
is probably also a genetic factor, because
hypospadias is eight times more common in
identical twins than fraternal twins.
Studies show that eight per cent of fathers
of affected boys have hypospadias, while
fourteen per cent of brothers are similarly
affected. And males conceived by IVF have a
five times increased risk of hypospadias
compared to other boys. This may reflect the
fact that mothers who have IVF are often
given progesterone, which can presumably
interfere with the hormonal system of the
developing male baby. As for one possibly
genetic influence: we know that to develop a
normal set of genitals, a baby boy has to
produce testosterone at very specific times
while he grows in his mother's uterus. One
study revealed that in 66% of boys with mild
hypospadias and 40% with severe hypospadias,
this process of testosterone production went
wrong. This is presumably determined by some
genetic abnormality.
Surgical treatment
Surgeons who work in the field aim to change
the penis to what they consider a "normal"
anatomical and functional state. This is an
interesting concept, for one might think of
a difference that was as common as 1 in 100
births to be a "normal" variation anyway.
However, I certainly would support surgical
correction in the most severe cases of
hypospadias, but there is a profound
philosophical question about whether
correction of minor hypospadias is
justifiable.
Various surgical options
include chordee repair (straightening the
penis), urethroplasty (moving the external
urethral meatus to the tip of the penis),
glanuloplasty (reformation of the flattened
glans into a more natural conical shape),
giving cosmetically and functionally
acceptable penile skin coverage, and
creating a normal-appearing scrotum. All
surgeons would agree, I think, that the
object of surgery is to allow a boy to have
sexual intercourse, urinate standing and
appear normal. (Although I know several men
with mid-shaft hypospadias who have never
had it corrected and who have excellent
sexual relationships.) Currently, most
surgeons repair hypospadias when a boy is
aged between six and eighteen months. This
is because they think there is less
psychological damage or trauma from surgery
at this age - which remains unproven.
Hypospadias in adults
There is a wide range of size
and appearance of what is thought of as the
"normal" penis. We do know, though, that the
meatus is not always at the tip of the
penis. Thirteen per cent of apparently
"normal" men have a hypospadic meatus and in
a further 32% it is in the middle third of
the glans. Most of these men thought they
were normal, all voided normally and had
sexual intercourse. I would take the view,
on the basis of this massive proportion,
that they are in fact normal by any
reasonable definition of that word.
Obviously minor degrees of hypospadias, as
defined by doctors, do not matter to men or
to their partners.
Men who have had surgery for hypospadias
often disagree with the surgeon on the
success of the operation. Up to 80% of
adolescents are dissatisfied with their
penile appearance, although only about 40%
desire further surgery. Where the final
appearance of the penis is circumcised, as
it will be after most hypospadias surgery,
dissatisfaction is greater in societies
where circumcision is not commonplace. One
has to ask, even if surgeons can "correct"
some features of the hypospadic penis, such
as chordee, the hooded prepuce (especially
if the circumcised appearance is
acceptable), and the position of the meatus,
is it right or necessary to do so, when many
men live happy lives, with successful sexual
relationships, with penises which have all
these features.
Hypospadias repairs currently in use put
great emphasis on correction of chordee. The
bend may be sufficient to prevent
intercourse and therefore "demand"
correction - though I believe, the man's own
opinions are of great importance. Some men
do not want their chordee correcting. There
is, however, a group of men for whom the
bent appearance, even if it doesn't stop
penetration, is so traumatic that they
cannot function sexually. In cases like
this, and in cases where men are too
embarrassed to consult a doctor, widespread
publicity to reduce the shame associated
with hypospadias is essential.
Sex with the hypospadic penis
Problems with sexual intercourse can result
from the physical "difference" of the
hypospadic penis, including the fact that it
is small or its appearance is unusual, or
from the anxieties associated with these
physical differences. More information is available here on these
aspects of hypospadias.
There is no significant difference in the
ages at which boys with or without
hypospadias started masturbating or having
sexual intercourse. Indeed, perhaps
surprisingly, most men with hypospadias
(whether repaired or not) appear to have
sexual intercourse in much the same way as
everybody else. This is a tribute to the
power of the male mind to overcome adversity
of the most personal and potentially shaming
kind - an abnormality with one's penis. On
the other hand, men with hypospadias have
reported significantly more erection
problems, such as curvature of the penile
shaft, shortness and pain, than
non-hypospadic men. Hypospadic men have also
described themselves as more sexually
inhibited than other men. Ejaculation may be
abnormal in men with severe hypospadias. Up
to 33% of men had "dribbling ejaculation"
and 4% were dry after surgery.
Emotional satisfaction or dissatisfaction
with intercourse is particularly difficult
to measure. But we know that one thing that
makes men dissatisfied is a perception that
their penis is shorter than average, and the
hypospadic penis is often said to be short.
Where a formal measurement has been made,
20% of hypospadic penises were below the
tenth centile. The finding was most marked
in adolescents, to whom, of course, penis
size can be a source of considerable
anxiety. As there is no realistic means of
enlarging the penis in hypospadias, men and
their doctors need to focus on changing
perceptions and coming to terms with the
condition. [ Having said that, comparative
studies seem to indicate that hypospadic
boys are not greatly different from their
peers in their sexual activity and
enjoyment.
See
Hypospadias Emotions
for much more on this subject .]
It seems probable that boys with
uncomplicated hypospadias are normally
fertile, for there is no excess of
hypospadias in infertility clinics. In an
apparently random group of 169 hypospadic
men, 50% were found to have a sperm count
below 50 million/mI and 25% below 20
million/ml. More than half of those with the
lowest sperm counts had associated anomalies
such as undescended testes, which might have
accounted for the poor result.
Psychological consequences of
hypospadias
There is much debate about the psychological
consequences of hypospadias. You can find a
whole series of personal accounts at
The-penis.com, some of which relate
trauma on a grand scale, all of which
mention a sense of "difference". But
basically, one thing that has become clear
to me over the last few years is that
millions of men have hypospadias and do not
know anything about it. These men may have
never been exposed to other penises, or they
may never have become stressed or concerned
about the appearance of their penis. In
other words, one has to ask if perhaps many
men with mild hypospadias who have serious
emotional problems or low self-esteem issues
are actually projecting their insecurities
about other aspects of their lives onto
their penises and blaming the emotional
consequences of these things on their
hypospadias. There have been several
studies on the psychological effects of
hypospadias, but they don't really tell us
much more than one could learn by talking to
a small group of men with hypospadias.
However, for the sake of completeness,
here's a brief review. The information
comes from here:
physical and psychological effects of
hypospadias.
In Sweden in the
1980s, Svensson
and his colleagues studied
34
adult men aged between 21 and 34 years who'd
been treated for
hypospadias during their
childhood in the 1950's and 1960's.
They were compared with a control group. He
found was that the men's
first sexual experiences (e.g., first flirtations,
first sexual relationship) happened later
than those of the control group, and the men
reported having fewer sexual
partners. However, in spite of these
differences, the majority of the men
interviewed reported having a relatively
satisfying sex life.
The men also showed signs of
having been more timid and isolated in
childhood. As adults, they had more
depression and anxiety, and found personal
relationships more difficult. They also seemed
to have lower self-esteem.
These researchers also looked at gender
identity and sexual orientation and found
that
the men who had been operated on for
hypospadias were less sure about their
masculinity. Indeed, the men seemed to have
a tendency to adopt more feminine behavior.
Even so, most chose a female partner.
As I mentioned earlier, it's my experience
that many men show no effects of
hypospadias, and may not even know they have
it. These will be men with mild hypospadias.
It is not surprising, perhaps, that those
operated on for surgery, who by definition
must have had severe hypospadias, show some differences
in psychological, psychosexual and
psychosocial development. Need we ask why?
It is, after all, their penis, the most
obvious outward symbol of masculinity for
most men, that is "abnormal". But let us
look a little deeper. Perhaps the level of hormones in
the hypospadias patients has affected their
psychosexual development?
Research seems to suggest this is
generally not the case, though I believe
a deficiency of testosterone, with all the
implications that has for masculinization of
the boy, can happen in some men with
hypospadias. Of course, we also need to
remember
that genital
surgery at a young age may itself cause
psychosexual problems.
But
given the importance of the penis as a
symbol of maleness and all it represents in
our society, perhaps any deficiency of this
organ leads to fears of deficiency of in
psychological development, social relations
and sexual behavior. And low self-esteem
could easily be the product of the reaction
of a child's peers to the abnormal penis.
Another series of studies
has been published by a team of Dutch
researchers. These studies, conducted in the
1990s,
were designed to
establish how men
hypospadias perceived
differences between their penis and that of
others.
In theory, if
the child is operated on, he should later have
a penis with which he can stand to pee, and
which looks more normal. But hypospadias surgery never gives the penis a
perfectly normal appearance (e.g., after
surgery it looks like it has been circumcised).
Also, parents of boys with hypospadias may
be concerned about their future masculinity,
and these
parental anxieties may be conveyed to the
child - which may affect the child's
ability to accept his penile variation. More
importantly, perhaps, the child's peer group
can emphasize his awareness of difference -
especially if he is unable to urinate
standing up or pee with a strong stream.
This may cause him to see his penis
negatively, and avoid situations where it may
be discovered, such as
urinating in groups or undressing publicly.
It's also important to know that
boys whose expectations of surgery are not fully
realized will be disappointed and may then
become obsessed by the appearance of their
penis. (In my experience, this is very
common among men with psychological problems
caused by hypospadias.)
So, most
men who had hypospadias surgery were still well aware that
their penis looked different to the norm.
And about 25% of them were dissatisfied
with the appearance of their penis, compared
to
5% of the other children/adolescents and 12% of
other adults. Their dissatisfaction centered
on the size and shape of their penis
and the position of the urethral opening.
Almost 40% of children/adolescents and 37%
of adults who underwent urethral
reconstruction had a negative genital
perception, and said they would like
improvement in function and appearance.
What effect does all this have? As you might
guess, men who have had hypospadias surgery report
feeling inhibited or embarrassed, and hide
their genitals in situations such as public
showers or public toilets.
The majority of
patients continue to perceive differences
between the appearance of their own penis
and that of others: they are more
dissatisfied with the appearance of their
penis, and often reported receiving comments
about it in public changing areas or toilets; they
are also more self-conscious and
embarrassed by the appearance of their
genitals, and this often leads to inhibitions in
seeking out sexual relationships. Men with
hypsospadias are
also more inhibited in undressing in front
of other people (e.g. in showers or communal
changing rooms).
What
makes this worse is that hypospadias is
often treated as a secret, even within the
family, which can have a shaming effect.
Other common characteristics of men with
hypospadias, with or without surgery,
discussed by Patrick Walker in an
unpublished PhD thesis on
hypospadias are as follows:
Lack of emotional support
in the family
Feeling different and
keeping hypospadias
a secret
Feeling embarrassed
about it
Doubt about
their
capacity to have normal sex
Feeling Shame and poor
self-esteem
Anxieties and
fear about sexual intimacy
Solitude,
isolation and mistrust
Feelings of loss and
incomplete masculinity
A process of personal
growth, acceptance of self and body after an
extreme level of physical and psychological
suffering
A need
to enter into contact with other men who had
hypospadias
A process of
coming to understand that hypospadias is
only a part of their overall life experience
There
isn't much research on the psychological,
psychosexual and psychosocial consequences
of hypospadias. However, what
we do know can be summed up as follows.
The
studies of the
Swedish team showed that
hypospadias
surgery
affected the
men's later psychological development and highlighted
how important social factors were in the
men's future emotional health. The
second series of studies by the
Dutch research team showed how men with hypospadias viewed their
penises, and that men had problems when
there was a risk pf the
condition being discovered (e.g., in
sexual interactions, or when there was a need to undress
in front of others). Both studies highlighted the lack of support offered to
boys and men with hypospadias - and that
included both the
medical profession and the family. Good information and education
about hypospadias is essential so that
hypospadias will no longer be seen as something shameful.
All too
often, hypospadias has been seen as
something abnormal which must be hidden. Meeting other people affected by
hypospadias allows a considerable degree of
"normalization", and being able to discuss one's
emotions and experiences with hypospadias
among people who can be trusted is extremely
beneficial.
Although
relatively common, hypospadias is not
discussed much, nor is it researched by
psychologists, even though the psychological
effects are considerable.