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Negotiating differences in sexual desire

Your partner constantly wants more sex than you. What can you do if this is stressing you out?

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It's normal for partners to have different levels of sex drive. Most couples need to find a good compromise which is acceptable to both partners. But what can you do if your partner wants to live out his or her sexuality much more passionately than you feel comfortable with? Sure, that's what they need and want to do, but it must be OK that the two of you are different in that respect. If you're clearly not as keen on sex as your lover, than that also needs to be OK with both of you. You may never get turned on by your partner's fantasies or choose to engage in them. You may never have as high a sex drive as he or she does, and that's OK too.

 

It's important that you stay true to yourself and your own sexual desires, even if they are different from what your lover wants. The more stressed you become about having to be as sexual as your partner, in the way your partner wants you to be, rather than in your own way, the less enjoyment you will get out of sex. If you feel like you have to go along with your lover, there's a danger that you'll lose contact with your own sexuality and the way you want to express it. Give yourself permission to be sexual in the way you want to be, rather than in the ways in which he or she would like you to be.

 

However, I appreciate that this might mean you end up with a new set of strains on your relationship. What would it mean for the two of you if you decide not to go along with all of your lover's needs, wishes and desires? How could he or she express as much of their sexuality as possible, without needing you to go along with everything? This may mean your partner has to make some compromises to stay within the agreed limits of your relationship (e.g. you're going to be faithful to each other) for the relationship to continue to work. This could be the beginning of a stormy period for your relationship! However you will get to know each other better as you engage with these conflicts openly and honestly. Living in the real world means we have to accept that we can't have everything we want and that relationships are hard work. It is important that you hold on to your position about sex and what you want. Your position is just as valid as your lover's.

 

Written by Anna 25.11.07

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