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You might think the internet
had been designed for spammers to peddle
penis enlargement products, at least judging
by the number of spam emails I receive every
day promising me untold sexual pleasure if I
have a larger penis - which, for a modest
investment in a bottle of pills or an
on-line enlargement course, it seems I can
easily have!
Well, the only thing that's
certain here is the strength of the desire
among men for a larger penis. I wrote about
why that might be such a strong desire
on another page
of this site, but briefly, it seems men have
come to associate masculinity with
penis
size. The larger your dick, the more of a
man you are. At least that's what we've been
led to believe by popular
culture.....(although I must add that one
correspondent emailed me to say I was wrong:
that he had a naturally big penis, and he
liked it because it felt great during sex).
Well, I have to say, I've spoken to plenty
of men with a small or average sized penis,
and not one of them has had any complaints
about the pleasure he received during
vaginal intercourse. As Anna has written,
the vagina is normally closed and it
actually opens out to accommodate a penis,
gripping it as the penis moves inside the
vagina. A larger penis will not therefore
add more pleasure to a man's experience of
sex, unless he gets satisfaction from the
symbolic power he sees in it.
Anyhow, leaving aside why
men might desire a larger penis, the
question is, does penis enlargement work?
There are some very clear facts here, as
well as some information that is less
explicit. First of all, penis
enlargement pills are a scam, akin to
nothing more than the snake oil peddled by
travelling salesmen of the Wild West. Not
that this has stopped men buying them. For
your amusement, you might like to read this
article, entitled
Anatomy of a penis pill swindle.
Next, there is the option of
surgery. For any man to want to have surgery
on his most precious commodity (just
joking!) he'd need to be fairly desperate.
It's true to say that some men who are born
with a very small penis, or one that
anatomically is enclosed in the abdomen, can
benefit from surgery, but for most men it's
just not a sensible option. You can read
more about
penis enlargement surgery here.
And then there are the penis
enlargement programs which I mentioned at
the start of the article. I'd have been
inclined to say that they couldn't possibly
work until very recently. The theory is that
by stretching the penis very hard you can
cause an expansion in the internal erectile
chambers. The penis isn't a muscle, so this
isn't like training up a muscle to get it
fitter and healthier - it's much more like a
process of stretching any flexible body
tissue (earlobes, lips, and so on) so it
expands in length or girth.
The reason I changed my view
somewhat is that
this article by Salon.com seems to
recount a case where the whole theory and
practice of penis enlargement has had some
spectacular results. It looks like Mike
Salvini, who's featured in the article, has
time and energy to spend on an intensive
series of stretching exercises, and, if the
article is to be believed, he has indeed
increased the size of his penis
considerably.
So does that mean we should
all go out and try it? No, because I think
if you have a normal sized penis (which
means between five and six inches erect)
then wanting a larger one is a sign of a
problem: a lack of confidence in your
masculinity, a doubt about your maleness, or
anxiety about your sexual ability. In
addition, I believe there is a serious risk
of injury from treating your penis so
harshly. You would not want to end up with
Peyronie's disease.
In any case, women do not
get more pleasure from a larger penis. This
is all about men and what makes them feel
like a man. My suggestion to you is that if
you are considering penis enlargement
exercises, you forget them and focus on
something much more helpful - find the
company of men who can support and reinforce
your sense of self, who will appreciate you
for who you are, not what you have or how
well you compete, and a relationship with a
woman who accepts you as you are.
