If you're a man with
premature ejaculation,
you won't need
reminding how
embarrassing and awful
it can make you feel
during sex when your
partner realizes you
have no control over
your ejaculation. And
the best reason to get
control over your
ejaculation is that
you'll enjoy sex much
more when you feel
truly in control, as
well as being able to
satisfy your partner
without ejaculating
before she's enjoyed
vaginal intercourse
with you.
Side by side sex is great for premature ejaculators -
most men can last much longer in this
position.
It's less tiring for both partners as
neither has to support their own weight.
Side by side
sex can be very
arousing. If you are in a chest to back
"spoons position" the
guy has full view of his lover's bottom.
If the man leans on one elbow the
position starts to resemble rear entry
sex.
When her legs are closed
she will be able to really squeeze his
penis using her vaginal muscles and her
thighs.
Side by side sex facing
each other can be the pinnacle of
relaxed and loving sex.
He says:
One
of the great things about sex is the endless
variety of positions and techniques to be
discovered.Man
on top sex offers the opportunity for
kissing, intimacy, and either vigorous or
gentle sex.It's
rewarding for both partners, and if you move
your hips in a slightly different way you
can enjoy new and exciting sensations.As the woman raises her legs, the
angle of penetration changes, and so does
the tightness of her vagina. Perhaps the
only disadvantage of man on top sex is the
need for the man to support his weight,
since this can be tiring on his arms.
If you do get tired, an easy option is to
move into the side by side sex positions.
Side
by side sex can
be either spooning, where the man lies
behind his partner as he penetrates her, or
face to face. The spoons position is highly
suited to gentle and loving sex, and because
it reduces friction on the penis, many men
find they can last much longer before they
ejaculate. That's especially true when a
couple lie on their sides facing each other.These
positions allow both partners to revel in
their sexuality and enjoy extended
lovemaking.And
because sex goes on for a long time, both
partners are likely to enjoy a powerful
orgasm.
She says:
Side by
side sex can be very arousing. If you are in a spoons
position the guy has full view of his lover's
bottom. You can use your hands to touch,
caress and hold her. Additionallyyou can
also lean on one elbow in which case the
position starts to resemble rear entry sex.
For her this can be more connecting than
rear entry sex as she is still to some
extend alongside his body, at least at the
start. Therefore, this position allows the
couple to start off from a more gentle,
romantic and connected position side by
side, but then move into a very sexy set up
once sexual tension starts to increase.
Additionally, if the two of you get really
excited, she can brace herself easily as her
full body is lying on its side as compared
to when she is on her hands and knees in
rear entry sex.
Some points
about the side by side sex position:
It can
be harder for a guy with a shorter penis to have fun.
It allows her to regulate the
depth of thrusting easily, which means there
is much less chance that she might get
uncomfortable due to him touching her cervix
internally with the tip of his penis when
she isn't fully aroused.
It's much easier for her to
tease him.
When she has her legs closed
she can put a lot of pressure on the whole
shaft of his penis with her thighs and
vaginal muscles.
You have to put more effort
into pushing against each other than if you
are on top of each other.
He says:
When
you're in a more gentle, loving mood, the
side by side positions can be just what you
need for a romantic session of lovemaking.Easy
access to her clitoris means a woman's
orgasm can be easier to achieve than in some
of the more conventional positions like man
on top or even rear entry.
She says:
On the
other hand, in a side by side position where
you face each other it can also be quite
hard to reach her clitoris as you are close
together and it may be impossible to bend
your wrists enough to reach.
However, if the male partner
is behind the female you will have good
access to her body, but she won't have to
his.
He says:
Variations
on the side by side positions centre on the
position of the woman's legs.Once again, each couple can
experiment to find out just what is most
enjoyable for them.The
sight of penetration is something that many
men find highly arousing, and often a slight
adjustment to a more conventional position
can provide this added thrill.
She says:
Keep in
mind that when her legs are closed she
will be able to really squeeze his penis
using her vaginal muscles and her thighs.
This normally increases the intensity of
sensation for the woman dramatically,
even though it might really slow down her
partner's thrusting.
Side
by side sex positions summary
He
says:
Pros
It's
great for premature ejaculators - most men
can last much longer in this position. The
depth of penetration and the depth of hip
thrusts he can make are limited, but the
position is no less fulfilling for that. The
couple can look into each other's eyes,
kiss, fondle breasts and chest, back and
buttocks, and reach down to play with her
clit, his testicles and penis. All in
all, a very intimate and romantic position.
She says:
You can always go for the side by side
spooning position if you want to have all
the advantages of side by side sex, but much
more lust.
He says:
Cons
It can
be tricky getting into this position. The
best way is to start in the man on top sex
position and roll over onto your sides. If
she has one of her legs under his, as in the
picture above, she may get a bit
uncomfortable. You could try placing one of
her legs between his legs, and have her
other leg over the top of his upper leg. See
the pictures above.
She
says:
This is more a point from the woman's
perspective: it's a good position for you
to initiate sex, for example by wriggling up
with your back alongside your guy. See how
long he can resist your bottom moving
against his groin!
